The Warrior Chic Lifestyle!!!

T he beginning of my life started out pretty normal. I was loved, cared for, and spoiled as the only child. I had a very strong attachment to my mom like most children. When I turned five years old my mom became very discontent with where she was in life causing her to question her career choices.  She decided to apply for the highway patrol academy, little did she know that after completing her course she would have to make the biggest decision of her life that would affect her relationship with me forever. In order to get hired she had to move from her small town to South Florida. It was a very hard choice but she choose to move and leave me to live with my great grandmother.  This one choice to better our lives cause me to experience a feeling of neglect, trauma and abandonment issues. My strong emotional dependence on my mother and me as a five year old asking why my mother left me thinking that I did something wrong, cause so much confusion in my life I felt unsafe, u

My thoughts on commercial and car drivers and staying safe during a blizzard… Okay, my husband was stuck in the Baltimore, Maryland/ Washington D.C blizzard last week. From my understanding it snowed like crazy and the cars had no sympathy for all of the trucks that were trying there best to make it up the hills while stopping and going while cars went in and out of traffic. First of all let me make it clear that I'm not taking sides here. I'm just bringing awareness to how to stay safe during a blizzard driving home from work. For those of you who don’t know… Driving in a blizzard is scary even under the best of circumstances. Semi-   Trucks are different from cars they have a long trailer behind them that slips and slides when trying to pull up a hill or drive on icy roads.  The lesson I want to make you aware of is how to avoid a spinout. I wish I could just say stay  inside and off the roads. Although this sounds like a no-brainer, but it's one of the most

Husband Home Checklist Get hair done. Get nails done. Shave legs. Cook his favorite meal. Get kids to bed early. Run hot bubble bath to share. Get out of tub/ check on kids. It’s been three weeks since he was home last. Alone time finally!!!!! Only to come back to bedroom to find husband sound asleep in the bed. Sleep tight honey we will try again tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!! I laugh now as I read those words I wrote in 2009.  As I reread this blog and update the post in hope that some lonely, confused, frustrated trucker wife will find clarity, hope, and inspiration to live her best life through my words and life experiences.  Yes, as I lay all my vulnerabilities down for the world to see the truth that not every marriage is perfect, nor is any human on this earth perfect but the common theme as you will see while reading this blog is that although we are far from perfect what we all have in common is our ability and will to choose to grow, develop, and change as we get

Long hours away from home. Truck drivers have DOT rules to follow which limit drive time. So if you’re looking to make as much as you can expect to be putting in very long days while you’re out there. This means a lot of time away from family! Trucking is no 9-5 job so your spouse needs to be open minded and very independent. Driving through bad weather. Use commonsense, if you aren’t comfortable driving don’t drive. Don’t jeopardize your life and the life of others trying to push through heavy snow and ice or hurricane weather. Safety first!!! Eat Truck Stop Food. I’ve been on many trips with my husband and the restaurants in the truck stop aren’t that bad. However, you will get tired of fast food and eating out. On your next trip home pack a couple days worth of home cook meals that you can enjoy. Keep a refrigerator or cooler in the truck for these items. You can always heat then up at the truck stops or when you get to your next stop. Self Entertainment. If y

Sometimes it can be very difficult dealing with a husband who supposes to come home to a kid birthday, but calls back in say he can’t make it. I’ve been with my husband from the beginning of his career as a trucker and I’ve seen and heard it all. Yes, it stinks! To be honest, “I did not want to hear the crap; he has to say, about not being able to come home.” Truckers always have a story! Although I also understand the business and been over the road with him so I know what he has to go through when dealing with certain people. So my advice to you ladies is Patient Open mindness understanding Will help you cope with the changes and challenges within your marriage or relationship to deal with the problems on his side of the issue you both are facing. If the wheels don’t move you don’t eat or have money to plan for the birthday party. Take a deep breathe. Be independent have the big day for your kids and keep it moving. In order to get through this type of job you will need

Driving an 18-wheeler can be challenging, although it’s your responsibility to get the load to the customer on time, here are a few ways to stay awake while driving a semi-truck. Try to get as comfortable as possible, if you feel it getting more difficult to stay awake, turn on the Ac so that you’re cold, it can be hard to stay awake if you are in a warm environment, cold air should help you stay awake while driving. When you driver’s stop off to get fuel, you tend to stock up on food, just in case you can’t stop again, this okay. However, I would advise you not to fill your stomach. Keeping your stomach a little empty will make it much easier to stay awake. If it start to get too difficult turn up the radio, or put in a CD, listen to some loud up beat music that will keep you from falling asleep, sing aloud with it that will get you up. Another way to stay awake while driving a semi truck is to stop for a break. I know driver’s press for time in this can be hard to do. Real

Driving a truck for 11 hours a day or more 5-7 days a week can get exhausting. Although being up different times a day in different time zones can cause your body to be off balance. If you are having trouble drifting off to sleep at night or day. Here are a few quick ways you can fall asleep quickly? Following a regular sleep schedule would help with the problem. However since a trucker’s schedule is unpredictable your only choice is to take a relaxing shower! Take a cooler in the summer and a warmer one during the winter. Try to stay away from food and beverage that contain sugar and caffeine. These items interfere with sleep. Buy yourself a comfortable pillow and invest in a good bed-set “bed in the bag” from Wal-Mart or Targets works well. I know it’s a big rig! But hey you need to sleep so make your truck as comfortable as your bedroom at home. Invest in the bed in the bag, you won’t regret! Make your environment comfortable, the truck should be kept dark, quiet, and not

It’s not easy being alone all the time, if you know a women who’s husband works over the road, be considered and help her deal with her loneliness and new found change. Here are some great tips for helping a new trucker’s wife fit into the Trucking Industry. Get a basket and place some nice colored tissue paper, into the basket for padding. Into this basket, you will be placing all the items in the following steps. An interesting book to read, of your choice, this will keep her busy and her mind off being alone. On a nice stationary, or printed on nice paper, write down your contact information, home phone, or cell. Let her know that you understand how lonely it can be with her better half gone all of the time, and whenever she likes she can come over, call, or you would love to have lunch, dinner, or a workout session at the local gym. This will get her out of the house. If you both have kids, offer to have kid’s night at your home, or to take the kids out to the park one

Driving a Semi-truck can be very stressful, although traveling from State to State can also be a lot of fun. To stay occupied when over the road, try these ideas below. In between stays visit the local Casino. Who knows you may win big! Catch a movie, if you have to stay over for the weekend, we all know that things happen in trucking and layovers happen all the time. If you are interested in sports, catch a Pro-Game. Visit a local ticket master and grab a ticket. Hang out at the local cultural concerts most of the time they are free and you can listen to the music while enjoying the view. Visit a local theme park or museum. Better yet a golf course! Make money by filling out surveys online, or better yet start writing articles. You can use the extra cash to pay for your fuel, or food, this way your runs will be straight profit. That’s what we do! Be Inspired!!! Warrior Chic XOXO

Just the thought of stepping out into the Trucker Industry can send shivers down the spine of even the most independent wife. As a husband, you may feel helpless but you are not. There are some simple things that you can do that will make the first trip over the road easier on your wife. Take your wife to the office with you, this will give her the opportunity to get to know the staff, and take a tour of the trucking environment. You never know if she will need to call the office, this way she will have an idea who she is communicating with. Spend as much time together as you possibly can, before you are expected to leave out. This way you can spend a little alone time to talk and know what is expected of each other during your time away on the road. If you were the one balancing the monthly bills, explain to her how things were done and help her create a way that is comfortable for her to handle your expense. If your wife is in a city alone “like I am” encourage her to ge

Being married can be a difficult task. Even though your intention may seem pure, you will need to learn how to show them through your action. That is what being the best husband is all about. Action! To be the best Husband, this means doing things you aren’t comfortable with. Ask your wife would she like to ride to the Home Depot with you? Yeah, it may seem boring; however it’s the thought that count. You let her know you actually like spending time with her. Don’t be afraid to be nice and show affection to her around your friends. Yeah, it may make you look like you are whipped in the “guy’s eyes.” However, she is glowing on the inside, you aren’t trying to be someone else in front of your boys while in provide you are acting like a teddy bear. The best husband, stops in listen. Give your wife the proper attention she needs and always be there to talk to her. She should be able to talk to you about any and everything. Compromise, do some of the things that she wants to do s