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Do I have a Fuck with me Sign on the Middle of my Forehead

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This is a Vent Post! I need prayer, love, and light! It is already hard being a trucker’s wife, now I am in the middle of moving to another city, and it seems like shit just starts to go wrong. I have a question will you great and wonderful readers stop for a moment and just pray for me, “happiness, unconditional love, no stress, and Oh yeah to win the lottery.” Seriously I don’t care how old this post is stop and pray! Why does bad stuff happen to good people? When life seems hopeless we tend to lose focus. Our dreams seem further away. Our kids tend to act up more. Our relationship starts to become a problem. We walk around with attitudes, blaming others for our problems, and we start to point out the faults in others. Often things happen to us that we simply cannot understand. Most times it is a test of our faith, and a test of our will. In my resist incident as of yesterday! My dumb ass ran into the back of a semi truck. Close your mouth, don’t cry I

Helping build a foundation

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--> Why you should contribute to this foundation! It takes a tremendous amount of time, energy and money to keep this blog up and running. Each month, countless hours, innumerable effort, and hundreds of dollars and good old fashioned hard work are the backbone of http://www.lonerwife.blogspot.com/ I believe that I provide a valuable service on my blog. How much time have you spent here? How many of my articles have you read? If my blog adds value to your life, please help me continue the work (and hopefully reach even more people) by making a contribution. I would like to give you my sincere gratitude. Thank you. Thank you for being a part of this project and along with my thoughts in helping people become better people. Love and Blessings, Nikki LeToya White Ph.D. AKA Warrior Chic XOXO BUY US COFFEE SO WE CAN KEEP WRITING

How to be a Woman of Value

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                                                                                                                             Bing Image A woman of value is a well-rounded woman. She can balance business with pleasure. She encourages, inspire and have strength for the entire family. Her qualities are so strong that she feels the appreciation from her family everyday. Her character is excellent. The traits reveal an empowered woman, one whose pushes her husband to the finish line, by encouraging, and lifting his spirit. Her worth is endless. She is kind, valuable; make others feel safe, an organizer, hard worker, homemaker, giver, and nurturer. Her husband trusts her and has full confidence in her. Because her potential are endless. You are his light and a dark world. You bring your husband good, not harm. You create an oasis in your husband mind, a safe place for his heart to rest. You turn a house into a home, a safe, comfortable dwelling. You know what a man wants. Wha

How to control your thoughts and sustain temptation

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When temptation flares think first act last. Let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. 1 Corinthians 10:12, 13 I was told by a dear friend, “whether you understand it or believe it or not, what you are doing at this moment will determine where you will be 90 days from now.” It kind of sound crazy at first but in reality now it is pain in clear! Things happen in life in being tempted by a friend, or co-worker it all will end up in disaster in the end. Being a trucker’s wife can get lonely due to the work schedule you could be separated for weeks or even months at a time. This is where your trust, faith and communication comes in. It doesn’t matter what is going on, never be tempted enough that it will cause problems or affect your lo

Co dependent No More: Your First Step to Independence

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Your first step in being a trucker’s wife is to separate the two. Find your own voice in the world. What do you want to do with your life? You can’t set home in wait for your driver to pull up, no you have to keep it moving you have to get out in evolve in the world in make something of yourself. I had to learn this the hard way; it took me 6 years to figure out what was the best decision for me to make to get to the next step of my life. I didn’t want to be known as the trucker wife or the stay at home mom. I didn’t like for people to put labels on me. I created the life that I wanted to have, not others. I was once told that professional development is about being aware of the decisions that you make, the way you think, and the way you handle different situations. Before I got married I never thought for myself I kind of did whatever I was told, or what I thought would make others happy. Once my husband started working over the road all of this changes, I was pushed very fast to

Benefits Of A Long Distance Relationship: New Trucker’s Wives what to expect

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If your family is looking for a career that pays well and often has great benefits, then finding a truck driver job might be the best thing you could ever do. Truck driving jobs are often readily available you don’t have too worry too much in a recession era; truck driving jobs are still available and ready for the picking. If you’re expecting to see your husband everyday then a trucking job isn’t for your family. First of all there are many different types of truck driving jobs and depending on the type of industry you go into you will find different job duties and responsibilities. As a truck driver, there will be many times during your husband career, when he will be miles away from home and his base station he will come across instances when he will have to deal with things by himself, with nobody else to help or support him. This is the time s will your marriage bond will be tested, there will be times when he will call on you for support and to run errands that he can’t do

How to make sure your Truck Driver eats Healthy

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A lack of healthy options coupled with busy driving schedules attribute to the overall poor eating habits of many truck drivers. Learn how you as a wife can help your driver make better, healthier food choices without sacrificing taste while on the road. When you are on the computer, search the area your truck driver is headed too, and look for a truck stops and restaurants that offer salad bars that offer an assortment of fresh fruit, vegetables, pasta salad, and more. If his only option is fast food, explain to him how to choose better foods for his health, let him know how important it is to eat right and stay healthy while he is over the road. It’s easier for him to do when he is home because you are cooking the food for him, and he will eat whatever you eat; however over the road he will grab what ever is convenient without even thinking about the health benefit. Encourage him to opt for healthier items from the menu. These days, most fast food restaurants offer healthier s

Approval Addiction Overcoming Your Need to Please

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Do you live under a burden of guilt and blame…feeling racket, unworthy, and insecure? Are you a people-pleaser, always looking for the approval of others, does this sounds  familiar? Your family is pressuring you into marriage. Growing up every girls dream was to walk down the aisle. Thinking about the moment makes your cheeks glow. Picture yourself in a Cinderella gown and beautiful pumps. My dreams are with stilettos! As you walk down the aisle everyone smiles and says, “Oh, she’s beautiful!” And your prince stands tall watching his princess come to the throne to be by his side. Meanwhile life goes on! You graduate from high school. You move away and attend college. This is modern day madness. You have your career on your mind and goals to complete. Realty steps in! “You realize you don’t want to get married” you want to focus on your dreams first. You dread going home on the holidays because your family is constantly on your case. When are you going to settle down and get

How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

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He spend 's too much time at work! This is the respond my clients and even myself used when our truck driving husband stay over the road far too long. Although I can relate to the miscommunication of our spouse agenda to come home but at the last minutes something happens to disrupts those plans. I also understand how if feels to cancel yet another event or go alone and have to make up yet another excuse of why he is not home. Traditional married couples and families who don't get the trucking life will never understand this sacrifice or why you stay committed to your spouse. So why bother in explaining yourself. I had to learn the hard way to accept only the things I can control and appreciate the time we do have together. Even with the mean comments and judgmental face expression. It's hard enough dealing with a long distance relationship but having to deal with other people thoughts and opinions about it can also stress you out. If you not careful other people voi

Long Distance Relationships Advice: Make the Best of Your Time!

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One of the hardest tasks in the life of a trucker wife is to have things planned. In only for your husband to call in say he will not be home until the following week. (That just burns my skin.) The difficulty should be viewed as an advantage. Now that’s a novel mindset, isn’t it? It took me 2 year to get used to my husband schedule. We would have plans to go out of town to visit our parents only to cancel due to the weather in another state that he was in. Or, due to not being able to get loaded or unloaded when he was schedule to do so. For many it takes a long time to get used to change. For some they just don’t have the patient to even stick around long enough to try. Tolerant and understanding aren’t on some people list. In the trucking industry there will be days when things go smoothly and we are able to go against the wind. And everything goes as schedule. The appointment times are accurate and my husband sets in and out within the hour, easily. On those days we get to s

The Lonely Life Of a Trucker's Wife

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People don’t have a clue about being a wife of a trucker. They look at you like you got it made. “As if!” Being a trucker’s wife is a hard job.  Being a trucker’s wife and a mother on top of that is even harder. Not only do the wife have to muli-task, housework, laundry, run errands, pay the bills, when and if she receives a check from her husband. But, she also has the task of caring for the needs of their children school work, cooking, after school activities. In if she has an outside job Lord help her. A trucker wife has to manage and balance the income while her husband is away. She has to do the oil changes on the cars, any repairs that need to be meet, and let’s not forget about that forest that grows in the front yard yes, “mow the lawn.” She has to be a mom and dad to the children, along with running her husband errands. A trucker wife has to make sure things run as smooth as possible while her better half is on the road. A trucker’s wife dream of a fairy tale marri