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Abandonment: You are Not Alone

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T he beginning of my life started out pretty normal. I was loved, cared for, and spoiled as the only child. I had a very strong attachment to my mom like most children. When I turned five years old my mom became very discontent with where she was in life causing her to question her career choices.  She decided to apply for the highway patrol academy, little did she know that after completing her course she would have to make the biggest decision of her life that would affect her relationship with me forever. In order to get hired she had to move from her small town to South Florida. It was a very hard choice but she choose to move and leave me to live with my great grandmother.  This one choice to better our lives cause me to experience a feeling of neglect, trauma and abandonment issues. My strong emotional dependence on my mother and me as a five year old asking why my mother left me thinking that I did something wrong, cause so much confusion in my life I felt unsafe, u

How to Stay Safe During a Blizzard: Sympathy for the Truck Drivers

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My thoughts on commercial and car drivers and staying safe during a blizzard… Okay, my husband was stuck in the Baltimore, Maryland/ Washington D.C blizzard last week. From my understanding it snowed like crazy and the cars had no sympathy for all of the trucks that were trying there best to make it up the hills while stopping and going while cars went in and out of traffic. First of all let me make it clear that I'm not taking sides here. I'm just bringing awareness to how to stay safe during a blizzard driving home from work. For those of you who don’t know… Driving in a blizzard is scary even under the best of circumstances. Semi-   Trucks are different from cars they have a long trailer behind them that slips and slides when trying to pull up a hill or drive on icy roads.  The lesson I want to make you aware of is how to avoid a spinout. I wish I could just say stay  inside and off the roads. Although this sounds like a no-brainer, but it's one of the most

Married to a Trucker: Husband Home Checklist

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Husband Home Checklist Get hair done. Get nails done. Shave legs. Cook his favorite meal. Get kids to bed early. Run hot bubble bath to share. Get out of tub/ check on kids. It’s been three weeks since he was home last. Alone time finally!!!!! Only to come back to bedroom to find husband sound asleep in the bed. Sleep tight honey we will try again tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!! I laugh now as I read those words I wrote in 2009.  As I reread this blog and update the post in hope that some lonely, confused, frustrated trucker wife will find clarity, hope, and inspiration to live her best life through my words and life experiences.  Yes, as I lay all my vulnerabilities down for the world to see the truth that not every marriage is perfect, nor is any human on this earth perfect but the common theme as you will see while reading this blog is that although we are far from perfect what we all have in common is our ability and will to choose to grow, develop, and change as we get

Basic Things you need to Know about Truck Drivers

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Long hours away from home. Truck drivers have DOT rules to follow which limit drive time. So if you’re looking to make as much as you can expect to be putting in very long days while you’re out there. This means a lot of time away from family! Trucking is no 9-5 job so your spouse needs to be open minded and very independent. Driving through bad weather. Use commonsense, if you aren’t comfortable driving don’t drive. Don’t jeopardize your life and the life of others trying to push through heavy snow and ice or hurricane weather. Safety first!!! Eat Truck Stop Food. I’ve been on many trips with my husband and the restaurants in the truck stop aren’t that bad. However, you will get tired of fast food and eating out. On your next trip home pack a couple days worth of home cook meals that you can enjoy. Keep a refrigerator or cooler in the truck for these items. You can always heat then up at the truck stops or when you get to your next stop. Self Entertainment. If y

Dealing with Layovers

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Sometimes it can be very difficult dealing with a husband who supposes to come home to a kid birthday, but calls back in say he can’t make it. I’ve been with my husband from the beginning of his career as a trucker and I’ve seen and heard it all. Yes, it stinks! To be honest, “I did not want to hear the crap; he has to say, about not being able to come home.” Truckers always have a story! Although I also understand the business and been over the road with him so I know what he has to go through when dealing with certain people. So my advice to you ladies is Patient Open mindness understanding Will help you cope with the changes and challenges within your marriage or relationship to deal with the problems on his side of the issue you both are facing. If the wheels don’t move you don’t eat or have money to plan for the birthday party. Take a deep breathe. Be independent have the big day for your kids and keep it moving. In order to get through this type of job you will need