Benefits Of A Long Distance Relationship: New Trucker’s Wives what to expect

If your family is looking for a career that pays well and often has great benefits, then finding a truck driver job might be the best thing you could ever do. Truck driving jobs are often readily available you don’t have too worry too much in a recession era; truck driving jobs are still available and ready for the picking.

If you’re expecting to see your husband everyday then a trucking job isn’t for your family. First of all there are many different types of truck driving jobs and depending on the type of industry you go into you will find different job duties and responsibilities.

As a truck driver, there will be many times during your husband career, when he will be miles away from home and his base station he will come across instances when he will have to deal with things by himself, with nobody else to help or support him. This is the time s will your marriage bond will be tested, there will be times when he will call on you for support and to run errands that he can’t do from his truck. If you can handle that, great! Welcome to the world of truck driving.

To get through the trails that come along with the trucking industry it would be wise to speak with people who are actually experiencing the same thing you are going through, talking to your best friend or your mom will not help because the have no clue what you are going through because they see their husband everyday and they can’t possible understand how it feels to be alone to take care of the entire household, independent, stressed, depressed or even lonely. The internet is another, convenient way to get in touch with truckers; blogs and chat rooms are an excellent source of information. Especially, research on the topic of, "How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work?"

Maintaining a long distance marriage isn't easy and it can have it's benefits such as, 

• Both partners will be as committed as the other. This should prove to you that you have found a great partner.
• You will learn to be more independent, whilst still being in a relationship, which is something that others who see their partner daily may not have learned.
• You don’t always have to have good days. Plus, you won’t be able to see your partner every day, so if you are having a bad day you won’t have to feel too bad for not seeing them.
• You should get more and more excited to see each other after some time apart and should cherish each other even more.

Things to remember they may cause issues includes,

Avoid Excessive Communication
Try not to become too overbearing and constantly try and get in touch with your partner. Communicate naturally, just like you normally would, and don’t worry about constantly being in contact as it just does not happen, and that is normal in any relationship.

Have A Goal In Mind

It is always good to be on the same page as your partner and to have similar goals and dreams  about your future together. Try and plan your life and future together, but as I tell all my clients plan but don't expect nothing. In the trucking industry miscommunication and failed loads are a given. 80% of the time you will have to contuine living your life without your better half present. Yes, this suck but it's part of the lifestyle. You sign up to be married but living apart as if you were a  single mom. At times that's what life will feel like. Make sure you have your own career to focus on or at least goals, dreams of your own.

Learn More About How You Both Approach Conflict

People can react to conflict in different ways, and it can be a lot harder when you are in a long distance relationship to work on conflict.

For instance, things can be taken the wrong way over text and you can’t talk face to face. Discuss with your partner how you react to conflict, and what you can both do when that time does come. Know how your partner reacts to conflict too and work on this together. This way, when you do have fight or argument it will be that little bit easier to work through, even if you aren’t together in person. Kind of become aware of the little things that may frustrate your spouse when over the road. I know my husband would get way bent out of shape over traffic and interstate shut downs. I didn't realize how frustrating it could be until I experience it myself. It throws their schedule way off. It cause them to have to layover or even miss loads all together. No drops no money. Especially after sitting for ten hours and only having four left to do what needs to be done. Oh that's a another thing always try to discuss big disagreements in person never text. 

Bottomline is to try to keep things as normal as possible even though you are not with each other all of the time, things can still be as normal as possible.

Try and talk to your partner about the little things, they may seem trivial at the time, but this is normal day to day conversation. Doing this helps you feel closer to your partner, and making the relationship seem more normal.

Work out the best way that you can both communicate; does your partner prefer video chat, emailing or maybe just a phone call? Whatever works best for you both, do this and keep things normal while you are apart, even if this is just a text to see how their day has been.

Empathy over conflict
To get an idea of what your husband goes through while he’s over the road I would consider riding along on a trip with him to see what life on the road is really like. This will expose you to the diverse environments and situations that your husband has to put up with on a daily basis.

Life on the road as an independent truck driver surely has its challenges. In order for your marriage to work you will need to build a strong foundation with lots of communication. Love and support each other in reality you both will leave to different lives, although when you reconnect you will have a unique love that is strong and a communication that no one can tear apart. Trust, have faith and communicate!

Repeat often:

Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you,
Yes, I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
ISAIAH 41:10

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